If you find tension between you and teenager son or daughter that make it difficult to keep the relationship as in the past, here it is a list of top 10 teenagers choices from a small survey to a group of teenagers and young adults who gave their answers to "what you would like your parents to do for you..." Top 1 - Listening. Pay attention to what the teenager said. No judgement. It's winner of everything. It basically applies to every relationship in adulthood as well.